For success in life we must focus on personal growth also. There are many forms of growth most which involves learning. One of the most important growths is unlearning. Unlearning means letting go of false beliefs and assumptions that we have formerly used to govern our existance. As you grow by unlearning you become like flower of joy. You life is going to change when you learn how to channel energy that was used unproductively like anger and tension into something productive. Ego is also malicious like controlling others, covering up facts, giving justification constantly and not accepting truth. If you become aware of ego it can no longer use you. This is a stage of unlearning.